On the subject of love.
The delicate word, young lovers decide to waltz recklessly around.
I’ve always been careful with my heart. Not to sound broken or damaged or any stupid YA cliche’s like that, but certain carelessness’s have lead to a cautious and calloused mentality around love. I personally, don’t agree with the philosophies behind ‘falling in love’. It sounds awfully melodramatic, but to fall clumsily without any action plan on how to save yourself, sounds simply foolish.
And I am not a fool.
To fall in love, is to leap off a rocky ledge without peaking over the edge first.
To fall also implies that you find yourself loving that person by accident or some other worldly arrangement of fate and the stars. When I get to the end of my life, I don’t want to say that I spent the majority of my life with an accident.
I think love songs and YA stories do a wonderful job of romanticising the idea of leaping without looking. And I think people love to consume these ideologies, because it’s an easy way out of something that everyone forgot to tell you, was and should be the opposite of easy.
It’s an escape to throw yourself recklessly into another person and blame whatever happens because of that on ‘falling in love’.
I would like to humbly suggest, what I think is a much sexier alternative. One that oozes romance but also intelligence. An idea that just lacks the deep roots in the renaissance, to have spent years romanticising it.
What if we choose to love someone.
What if I didn’t want to fall helplessly, but walk deliberately and slowly into the ocean of another person. What if I picked up another rock to weigh my pockets down, every time I let them teach me how to love them just a little bit more. What if I knew with all my soul and mind that if I did walk into their ocean, weights and all, that they would not drown me.
I want to get to the end of my life and say with all my heart, soul and mind that the person I spent my life with, was not an accident in any way. They were the person I chose to teach. They were the person I chose to love with all of my everything’s.